Hottt to Read !!!! Crime Case Study In "JIS" (Jakarta International School)

Clothes

Of course you have the right to wear whatever you want, but people in Indonesia tend to judge you by your clothes. Skimpy clothes generally indicate a prostitute, a dangdut dancer, or any "easy" woman. So you can make life a lot easier for yourself by covering up a bit. (No-one's suggesting you go cover yourself from neck to ankle).

• Wearing a bra is highly recommended.
• Sleeveless tops are fine (off campus), as long as they're not too revealing. Avoid displaying cleavage or midriff.
• Shorts are OK, as long as they're not too short or too tight. The same goes for skirts.

If in doubt, look around at what Indonesian women your age are wearing. They live here, so they know the "rules".

Sex in Indonesian Society

The "double standard" is alive and well in Indonesia. Men are expected to be sexually experienced before marriage, and are not really expected to be faithful after they're married. Its "in their natures" to play around. On the other hand, women are expected to be virtuous. In Indonesia, "nice girls don't", at least not until they're safely married. To be fair to Indonesian men, I have met some who are "saving themselves for marriage."
The other aspect of this double standard is that sex outside marriage does occur. Lots of couples get married because the woman is pregnant, but people prefer to pretend it doesn't happen. People tend to go away to engage in "illicit" sexual activity. In Yogya, popular places for a "dirty weekend" are Parangtritis and Kaliurang.
Western women are often seen in very stereotypical ways. Is this the influence of "sexy" Western movies? They are perceived of as being sexually free, and ready to jump into bed with someone at the drop of a hat. If you say "no" to an Indonesian man, you'll often be accused of being racist.

Sexual Harassment

Here is a list of types of behaviour commonly experienced by Western (and Indonesian) women, all of which
could be perceived as sexual harassment.

In the street:

• staring at your breasts or your crotch.
• calling out to you in the street. Remarks made can be
  • fairly innocuous: Kok sendirian? (men get this one too.)
  • sexually loaded: Nggak pakai BH, ya?
  • downright rude: F*** you (again, the influence of Western films)
• grabbing your breast as you walk down the street
• stealthily feeling you up on the bus, or rubbing up against you.

In private/With acquaintances:

• Double entendre. Indonesians are masters at putting sexual innuendo into the most innocuous conversations/situations. For example, Robyn kalau sudah di atas tidak mau turun. It sounds as though we're talking about my preference for a particular sexual position. Actually, it was said by a man when I was beating him at ping-pong. If you're joking around with friends, you may find this sort of conversation entertaining. If such sexual innuendoes are made by someone you don't know very well, you might feel threatened.
• Various types of sleazy conversations. These may be tentative - inquiring about "free sex" in the West is a favourite. Some men favour a slightly more direct approach - expressing a desire to "try" a Western woman.
• Invitations to stay somewhere overnight, eg Parangtritis or Kaliurang. Even if you have known the man for months, even if you and he are "best buddies", expect sexual overtures if you accept an invitation of this sort. If you decide to go, be prepared.

Possible responses

I've listed these responses in order of severity.

• Ignore it. This is probably the best response to stares and calling out in the street.
• Act dumb. Pretending not to understand the sexual innuendoes or sleazy remarks can defuse the situation.
• Make a witty retort. The problem with this approach is that you usually think of the witty remark an hour or so after the event.
• Make your harasser feel embarrassed. Sometimes a simple Orang Jawa sopan-sopan, ya? in response to a rude or sexist remark will stop him in his tracks.
• Be firm and calm. This is the best response to sleazy conversations. This is no time for false politeness, but neither is it very useful to fly into a rage and tell the man to f*** off. Tell the person politely that you don't like the turn the conversation is taking, and you don't wish to discuss it any more.
• Get angry. Being shouting out-of-control angry is not recommended, because it means the other person has "won." But it's also pretty human to get pissed off with unacceptable behaviour. It might help relieve your pent-up emotions to yell Bangsat after the man who's just grabbed your breast in the street. But remember, it's also going to attract the attention of other people in the street, who'll stare, and wonder what this crazy londo is up to. Anger is probably better expressed quietly, with sarcasm or pointed remarks.
• Physical violence. Please try to avoid this one, as it could be more trouble than its worth. Although an Indonesian woman friend of mine always carried a safety pin with her when travelling on night buses. If a man's hand found its way somewhere it shouldn't have been, a quick stab with the working end of the safety pin made him remove it pretty quickly. And, she added with some satisfaction, men dealt with this way were usually too embarrassed to scream.

Talk to continuing students about their experiences, and the responses they've found helpful.

The Good News

It's not a jungle out there. Violent sexual assault in Indonesia is much less common than it is in Western countries, and there are studies to prove it. We're just taking the position that "forewarned is forearmed". All or none of the things I've mentioned above may happen to you. Its best to be prepared, but not paranoid.
Some of my best friends are Indonesian men.

JIS Sexual Harassment Case

The City Police's General Directorate of Detective and Criminal Investigator is still having difficulties
investigating five suspects over the case of sexual harassment at Jakarta International School (JIS). They are difficult to be questioned related to sexual crimes against other victims.

"We're still questioning the suspects intensively, considering they seem introvert"

"We're still questioning the suspects intensively, considering they seem introvert," said Chief of City Police's Public Relations, Sr. Comr. Rikwanto, Friday (5/2).
According to Sr. Comr. Rikwanto, the suspects had committed sexual crimes seven times. Five out of them were successful, while two others failed due to the bell rings.
Those five suspects namely Agun Iskandar a.k.a AG (25), Virgiawan a.k.a Awan, Syahrial a.k.a SY (20), Zaenal a.k.a ZA (25), and Afrischa Setyani a.k.a AF (24), are still being arrested at the City Police Prison.
Additionally, the City Police has yet to receive the report about another victim in such case that was allegedly committed by janitors against students in JIS Kindergarten. Thus far, we have secured the victim initials AK (6).
"Hopefully, the Indonesian Child Protection Commission (KPAI) could convince the victim's mother, family or children to report," he expressed.
Besides KPAI, the female police officers are also involved to approach the victim's family slowly. They are from the City Police's Woman and Child Protection Unit (PPA).
"To investigate the case optimally, we involve the female police officers of PPA," he expressed.

Another Sexual Abuse Of JIS

The victim of sexual abuse in Jakarta International School (JIS) Kindergarten (TK) increased. A victim's parent reported to Indonesia National Commission of Children Protection (KPAI). An indigenous parents of victim admitted that his son had sexually abused more than twice. KPAI still conceal the identity of victims family and the victim who reports.

"Based on victim's family report, there remain one suspect again besides two suspects of sexual abuse to AK"

General Secretary of KPAI, Erlinda said KPAI received victims report besides of AK (the first victim) who abused sexually in JIS. "The victim is a student of JIS Kindergarten and friends of AK," she said, Wednesday (4/23).
Erlinda added, after received a report from Victims family, she will give law aid, therapy, and psychological aid for these victims. She also will cooperate with Police to reveal the second sexual abuse case of JIS.
"Based on victim's family report, there still remain one suspect again besides two suspects of sexual abuse to AK. KPAI will ask photograph of JIS employees because the victim is allegedly the other person," she added.
Erlinda stated, to have protection of witness and victim, KPAI also report it to Witness and Victim Protection Agency (LPSK) to secure the victim with the family. "We also help the family and the victim to report it to police, because until this time, victim's family still afraid to report," she stated.
 

Raping 90 Children in JIS

Sexual harassment case revealed at Jakarta International School (JIS), Cilandak, South Jakarta, has attracted international attention. A former JIS kindergarten teacher, William James Vahey (64), is a Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) fugitive. Vahey is suspected to have raped around 90 children under age.

"It’s been investigating, whether there was such case in Indonesia. Since it happened in 90’s if he was a pedophile"

FBI recorded that James Vahey had taught for 10 years (1992-2002) at JIS. Besides in Indonesia, Vahey had also taught in other 9 international schools such as American Nicaraguan School, Southbank International School, Passarged School in Iran and Saudi Aramco School in Kingdom of Saudi Arabia.
Related to that investigation, City Metro Police investigators are examining it in deep. “It’s been investigating, whether there was such case in Indonesia. Since it happened in 90’s if he was involved in pedophile case,” said City Metro Police PR, Comr. Rikwanto, Wednesday (4/23).
The investigator team is searching the cases related to Vahey name that once happened in the city. It will also be coordinated whether there were sexual harassment cases in that school. “Since it happened in long time ago, we will investigate again whether there was a case,” Rikwanto explained.
According to an information, Vahey has found kill himself when the FBI just want to proceed the case. Vahey was fired from international school in Nikaragua due to sexual harassment case early this year. FBI suspects that there are 90 children have become Vahey’s victims.

About Sexual Harassment

There's been a lot written about this subject, since the Thomas/Hill hearings. I'm clear that part of sexual
harassment (through probably not legally), is making suggestive comments to women on the street, pinching, patting or otherwise touching a woman I don't know. But, what about touching a woman colleague on the shoulder or arm, in conversation (I often do it with male colleagues)? Or a comment that I really like her outfit without expecting or wanting a response? I do it with men I don't know when I liked a suit or shirt or tie. When is it appreciation and when is it sexual harassment? What if my female colleague starts dating the boss and because of this, gets a promotion when I'm more qualified? What about flirting?
In all of the press I have read since the hearings, I have yet to see one article that let's me, as a man, know what sexual harassment is. And I truly believe that most men would not sexually harass a woman if they realized they were doing it. And, when told that what they were doing was being received as sexual harassment, would stop. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find much information on sexual harassment out of the workplace, so apply workplace laws, to be safe.

I started with a book, published in 1981, called Sexual Harassment on the Job, How to avoid the working woman's nightmare by Contance Backhouse & Leah Cohen and went through Friedman, Boumil, Taylor's Sexual Harassment, published in 1992. (See bibliography.) Also, check with your company, which has its own guidelines or contact the District Equal Employment Commission - there's one in every state - for the Federal guidelines.) Here's what I learned. Use these, not as law, but as guidelines, since it varies by city and the judges personal bias, as was clear in the Senate hearings.

What Sexual Harassment is: Simply stated, "Sexual Harassment is any unwelcome sexual advances,
requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature."
This is typically experienced in the context of a relationship of power or authority. The victims are subjected to verbal comments of a sexual nature, unconsented touching, and requests for sexual favors. The perpetrator is in a superior position at work and is able to threaten the victims' job. a promotion or some employment benefit. A single incident is usually not enough to "make a case* unless it is a violent one, but repeated acts may be. Even the usual male/female pursuit may cross the boundary to reach the level of harassment. The alleged victim must indicate displeasure in definite terms and if the perpetrator continues, that constitutes sexual harassment.

What Sexual Harassment Isn't: It's not flirtatiousness, hormones or sexual desire" says Working Woman magazine. 'Most harassers share a common goal - intimidation."
However, the legal standard constituting sexual harassment is in a state of flux. The courts, faced with this issue, are beginning to give greater attention to the alleged victim's point-of-view. It's clear, however. that a single incident of sexual advance or even a request for a sexual favor is not harassment unless it is backed by a work-related threat. I revert to terms in baseball. If I get three strikes, I'm out. If she is interested, then it's up to her to make the next, "clear pitch". Otherwise, the game is over.

What are you willing to do about the part you play in sexual harassment to (1) Insure that you never sexually harass another person, under any circumstance? (2) Intervene when you see colleagues participating in sexual harassment? and (3) Intervene when you see sexual harassment happening out in the world?
Before I go on I want you to know that I believe that (1) by far the majority of sexual harassment is done by men towards working women (50-67%). And I really want you to know that we. as men, must clean up our part of this whole thing. (2) 1 also believe that sexual harassment does happen to working men (15-30%) and that laws and guidelines are often written and languaged as if sexual harassment is only a male to female thing. And, the legal system and services just aren't available for victims who are male.

Three areas where male victims aren't treated equally are statutory rape, sexual harassment and spousal
abuse. In some states there are laws that say sex between minors and men over 18 is statutory rape but between minors and women over 18, isn't. Regarding Sexual Harassment, the language makes it appear strictly a man to woman thing. A good example is the handout being advertised on ABC-TV that's available at every library in the U.S., called "Stop Sexual Harassment". The real danger in this document is the languaging. The only acknowledgment that it happens to men is in the second paragraph which states "Studies show that as many as one-half to two-thirds of all working women and some working men have experienced sexual harassment." However, from there on, ALL examples are "guy", "men", "his advances, "he knows she", etc. And further, under resources it clearly states, "This resource list is provided for women who are victims of sexual harassment" and it lives up to that statement, on both a local and national level. Not one example or resource for a man. (Of course, the NOW Legal Defense & Education Fund contributed in the development of the materials, so that may explain the sexist assumption.) Even spousal abuse carries the implication that men are not the recipient of spousal abuse, contrary to most research on the subject.

However, even when state and local agencies work to be inclusive, the old thinking slips in as a man to woman thing. An example is form CP-536 Jan 90, published by the Concord California Police Department entitled "Resource Information for Victims of Domestic Violence". While attempting to not be sex specific, it only offers resources for women, i.e., "E. Pressing Charges/Victim Assistance - call Battered Women's Alternatives. F. Suing the Offender - call a lawyer or Battered Women's Alternatives. Shelter and Crisis Counseling: If you need a place to stay or advice." 10 women's shelters, four care centers, one nursery. "Counseling for Offenders:" 5 men's abuser services, nothing for women. "How Much Does It Cost? Battered Women's Alternatives offers clinics to women in filling out application for Temporary Restraining Order", nothing for men. And most telling, "What Do I Do If The Defendant Violates the Restraining Order? Point 3. If the defendant is still there when the police arrive, and he is aware of the restraining order, the police may arrest him/her..."(See "Alternatives to Violence" which includes some resources for women perpetrators and male victims as well as the standard fare.)

It's in the collective psyche that only men abuse. Our collective denial says that women aren't violent or when they are violent, there's an excuse but when men are violent, there's no excuse. Regardless of the sex, there's no excuse!

The reason, however, that subjects like sexual harassment, spousal abuse, incest and rape are coming out and being addressed is primarily because some courageous women are standing up to make it public and then fighting and organizing and providing services to help those affected. The Women's Shelter-movement happened because individual women got together and did something about it. Then , year's later, "some" aid was provided.
As long as men stay in the closet about being incested or molested or physically or psychologically abuse as a child, being battered in a relationship, or being sexually harassed on the job, it's going to continue to be seen as - only men abuse and only women can get help. And, when men do come out about it we need to make the support services available without expecting city, state or federal aid to do it. In essence, we need to prove that there is a need and take care of it on our own.

And we all must come to understand that our entire culture is becoming a very violent culture (witness the recent Life Time special, "Jennifer's in Jail" which spent an hour profiling teen-age girl violence - including knifings, shootings, etc.) Think twice about having your son circumcised. Think again about how appropriate that war toy is. Think again about buying that high powered water gun or the camouflage jeans for the little tyke. Think about how you handle your child's pent-up anger. "What anger" you say? While the rebels definitely cause alot of problems, know that the quiet ones are the ones that killed the 14 women in Montreal or shoot the kids in McDonalds. Anger stuffed destroys.

Our collective denial has left us with a world where schools and the penal system don't know how to deal with violent boys much less the incredible influx of violent girls. Denial can no longer be tolerated. The violence must stop! What can you do? Think about it! - Gordon Clay